The Love of Being Useful
If you are facing rejection and have failed in a few things that you have tried to accomplish, the one thing that can help you get past this is to find the “The Love of Being Useful.
Let’s say you were a friend of a friend. Yet, when you ask him about what he would do if he was no longer a friend, he answers: “Well, then, I’d be his friend.
If you are facing rejection and have failed in a few things that you have tried to accomplish, the one thing that can help you get past this is to find the “The Love of Being Useful.” Without this, you will fail with almost everything.
Let’s say you were a friend of a friend. You know he’s always willing to lend a hand in cleaning his car or shoveling snow when asked. Yet, when you ask him about what he would do if he was no longer a friend, he answers: “Well, then, I’d be his friend.” At first glance, this seems to be a good answer.
When you spend your life caring about others, you will be a blessing to them because you will grow up to be a friend. However, you still need to take the time to get to know them better.
The Love of Being Useful is not about changing who you are to attract more friends. Rather, it is about learning to let go of old habits and become more comfortable with who you are. Remember, there are people who are not your friends but rather someone who just want to do a favor for you.
If you are continually asking for favors from people, this is not a sign that they are not worth your life’s worth. In fact, it is proof that you are confident enough to take care of yourself. Because of this, the relationships you develop will be more likely to be the long-term ones.
The Love of Being Useful does not mean you change who you are to get more help. Rather, you become the one giving out the help instead of having to be sought.
If you find that you are using some of your life to do others’ business, stop. Let go of your belief that you need to be busy to be happy. This belief might have been an extension of the Love of Being Useful.
It is common to treat others nice flowers when you are being their friend. The Love of Being Useful states that all you need to do is love the person you are with instead of being a ‘friend.’ What you do with your life is really up to you.
Being a friend might include assisting someone. However, when you seek out others to be your friends, you are not showing that you are interested in the other person’s happiness. Rather, you are letting the friendship lapse.
On the other hand, being useful in your relationship is actually the opposite of using friendship to serve others. Rather, you are showing that you are capable of taking care of yourself and that you are willing to learn how to do so. By changing yourself, you are also changing your relationship with those around you.
Unfortunately, many people often want to use this simple statement. It is the greatest reason why they fail to become anything more than friends. They are either in need of someone else to help them or they simply feel that they are incapable of taking care of themselves.
To become the Love of Being Useful means to understand that you are capable of fulfilling your own dreams without the aid of others. If you are doing this, then you will never again be left wondering what you can accomplish on your own.
